Matthew 18:15
Sunday, 29 March 2026
“Moreover if your brother sins against you, go and tell him his fault between you and him alone. If he hears you, you have gained your brother. Matthew 18:15
“And if he should sin against you, your brother, you withdraw, and you confute him – between you and him alone. If he should hear you, you gained your brother.” (CG)
In the previous verse, Jesus finished the parable of the lost sheep. He now enters into a new type of possible loss. Unlike a brother in the faith who has wandered from the fold, this one is in the fold, but has caused turmoil, as Jesus says, “And if he should sin against you, your brother.”
The statement is as broad as it gets. No particular sin is mentioned, only that it is something a brother (meaning a fellow believer) has done to offend another. Should this be the case, Jesus continues with, “you withdraw, and you confute him.”
It is a new word, elegchó, to confute or admonish. HELPS Word Studies says, “to convince with solid, compelling evidence, especially to expose (prove wrong, connect).” The reason for this is at least two-fold. The first is to maintain harmony with others. The second follows naturally from the first point. In Leviticus 19, it says –
“‘You shall not hate your brother in your heart. You shall surely rebuke your neighbor, and not bear sin because of him.” Leviticus 19:17
Under the law, there was to be fellowship with others of Israel. They were commanded to love their neighbors as themselves (Leviticus 19:18). As this is a point of law, to not do so by hating one’s brother resulted in bearing sin.
In the epistles, Paul says –
“Therefore, as we have opportunity, let us do good to all, especially to those who are of the household of faith.” Galatians 6:10
Doing good to others includes maintaining fellowship and not hating one another. As for how to approach the matter Jesus refers to, He continues with, “between you and him alone.”
A conflict between two people should start with a one-on-one presentation of what one did to the other to harm the relationship. Again, no example of what the sin is has been mentioned. These are guidelines to cover all such instances. The offense has been made, the offended has identified it, and he has done so in private between the two. Jesus next says, “If he should hear you, you gained your brother.”
The matter was handled properly, and nobody else needed to be bothered with the offense. It is a simple, straightforward, and expected way of handling such things. In the end, reconciliation was made, and life will go on without further sin being the result.
Life application: In Romans, Paul gives continued advice concerning such things –
“Repay no one evil for evil. Have regard for good things in the sight of all men. 18 If it is possible, as much as depends on you, live peaceably with all men. 19 Beloved, do not avenge yourselves, but rather give place to wrath; for it is written, ‘Vengeance is Mine, I will repay,’ says the Lord.” Romans 12:17-19
Notice how Paul says, “as much as depends on you.” It is similar in thought to what lies ahead in Jesus’ continued words to the disciples. Some things are beyond our ability to mend, and this can be for a limitless number of reasons. We can only do what we can do.
These matters are addressed in the word because they are matters that have arisen in human hearts since the very beginning. Cain’s jealousy turned into murder. That was just the start of unhappy interactions between people, even among Christians. So don’t beat yourself up too much when disputes, even irreconcilable disputes, arise.
Hand your cares and disappointments over to the Lord after you have done what you can to resolve a matter. He has been handling humanity’s problems for millennia.
Glorious Lord God, help us to be people who are willing to resolve conflicts with others when it is possible. Give us the wisdom to take the proper steps to do so, reminding us of what Your word says concerning such matters. Help us in this, O God. Amen.
